He’s Just Not That Into You
The whole “He’s just not that into you” theme from Sex & the City is from one of the few episode of the show that I’ve actually watched. I normally don’t like the show, but enjoyed this episode; however, I had no clue that the book or the show were related until I had actually picked up the book and read the introduction.
I half expected this book to be somewhat depressing, but it was written in a way that was very humorous and, surprisingly, uplifting, if a little repetitive. Written in a format where a female with some sort of relationship problem writes in, where Behrendt responds, every response somehow manages to include the phrase “He’s just not that into you” or a slight variation of it. Behrendt is very sarcastic and smart-assed which makes it not quite so heavy to swallow.
A lot of these problems the women are having are quite familiar, and it sort of makes you wonder how we can be so blind in these situations than when we’re watching it or reading about it.
I haven’t read too many other Relationship books. The only other ones were written by Josh Harris. Surprisingly, the first chapter of the book echoed some sentiments from Harris’ books. From what I remember, Harris mentions something about how men should be the ones who initiate a relationship because they are supposed to be the head of the family, or something along those line. This book expressed it much better when it said that women shouldn’t initiate the relationship, because it’s apparantly more fun for the guys to start it, and if they don’t start something, well then it’s because “he’s just not that into you.” The way it was expressed in this book seemed to be more applicable to my own life than Harris’ books.
I’m not sure I can say whether this book has improved my view on relationships at all, but it was definitly good for a couple of laughs.